Appreciation is a magical way of bringing a smile on anyone’s face. However, often we forget to use this simple gesture and ruin our relationships.
A child just needs a pat on the back with few words of appreciation to do well in exams. Wife just expects the appreciating words from her husband and would happily do anything for him.
A few weeks back we met an old couple and asked them the secret of their solid relationship of 30 years. They responded, that “Just remember, that the other person (spouse) is also a human being. They also can commit a mistake. Have a big heart to accept their mistake and appreciate them for the steps they are taking to keep you happy”.
We often go with the flow and keep on reacting to situations in a particular way. Every time you didn’t like a particular action of your spouse you’ll shout. This leads to a common chain reaction resulting in unwanted disagreement. The solution to ignore such a fight is to create a “Pause”. Just pause yourself in that moment of anger. The moment you’ll generate that gap, that pause in your reaction, you will allow time to your mind to respond in a much better way.
Take this baby step the next time your spouse or your child cook something for you. No matter how the food is appreciated in the best possible manner. It need not be fake, just realize the effort they have made to make that food for you and appreciate their effort. Believe me, the smile that you will see on their face will make your day.